Mother-in-law Secretly Does Paternity Test Behind Daughter-in-law's Back, Causing Trust Issues in the Family

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Aug 24, 2024 3:00 PM EDT

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. It's becoming increasingly common to perform paternity tests. There's been a recent craze because of some leaked cases of men parenting children who aren't theirs. I can understand this shock, it's deeply traumatic on so many levels. Although it can cause a lot of strife for the relationship, men sometimes insist on knowing the truth. After insisting, it's no wonder it creates problems in the relationship forever, and even sometimes divorce. 

This brings us to the Reddit thread. Although it's not the husband who's concerned, a paternity test is performed on the couple's child, but from the MIL. The MIL is paranoid that her grandchild isn't hers, and she makes sure to find out the truth. Obviously, doing this kind of thing in secret would upset any mother. 

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    r/AITAH 3 mo. ago Alert Passion_5272 AITA for confronting MIL after she hinted about a paternity test?
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    | 29F need some advice on a sensitive family matter that's been causing tension. Recently my MIL made a comment that caught me completely off guard and left me feeling hurt and insulted.
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    During a family gathering she made a not so subtle remark about how much my baby son resembles a family friend. At first I brushed it off as a harmless joke but then she followed it up with a comment along the lines of "You never know these days. It wouldn't hurt to be sure"
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    I was shocked and deeply offended by her insinuation that my son might not be my husband's biological child. My husband and I have always been faithful to each other and to have his own mother question our son's paternity felt out of line.
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    I couldn't let it slid so I confronted her privately and expressed how her words had hurt me. She tried to play it off as a joke but I could tell there was some underlying suspicion behind it.
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    Now my husband thinks I overreacted and should just let it go. But I can't shake off the hurt and mistrust that her comment has caused. I told him I won't be attending any family gatherings and he said I better not if I will confront his mother whenever she makes a joke.
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    Edit: I never said I'm against paternity test. I felt hurt because she did this in front of the whole family. the family friend is a 47M married man with 3 kids.
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    TheLastMongo •3mo ago NTA. Oh no, you should go back to a family event. And when she 'jokes' about it and 'how you just don't know these days', ask her if there's something she needs to tell her son. Or how she's that familiar with the problem. And when they
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    complain just say it was a joke n
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    communitychoc... • 3mo ago You did good by calling the out on her "joke". Now you should make a joke how unfortunate it would be if the baby's grandma had a terrible accident or was just simply denied access to see her grandchild... gee, such a shame.
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    Agoraphobe961 • 3mo ago NTA. MIL was way out of line and your husband is a for not standing up for you
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    ArsenalSeven 3mo ago Tell her that your husband looks like cousin 'bob' and that FIL should get a paternity test to make sure he is the father.
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    Apprehensive-C... • 3mo ago In my humble opinion, your MIL is an evil This is not a joke. This is a full out attack on your marriage.
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    She will continue to be an evil your entire life. She will always and constantly undermine your marriage. You and your husband. should jump up and down in front of her and scream off off off . off" at her. Forever.
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    I'm not sure why your wimp husband is not going to war for you.
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    PeanutGallery10 3mo ago NTA Ask her how her joke was funny. And lose your husband who doesn't have your back.
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    Final-Success2523 • 3mo ago NTA your husband needs to grow a spine, his mother is calling you a cheating w**** and that's definitely not ok. So I would've called her out in front of everyone and you need to tell your husband to back you up since your his wife.
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    pinkvictimxxx • 3mo ago You never know these days. Which days was the potential for this less? Before paternity tests? During various wartime eras where men were gone for years at a time?
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    Krusty from The Simpsons once said: "I was joking! When you make that face, I was just joking!" and that always sticks with me when people use humor as a way to be problematic without consequences.
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    Lucky-Effective-... 3mo ago NTA. "I'll do it if you do it. I wouldn't want husband and FIL to feel left out"
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